My theories

I used to be caring to lots of people when I was in NZ…did loads of things for them… mostly for girls coz most of the guys seemed to handle themselves pretty well…but here….somehow I have stopped doing things for girls also….due to past experiences…I have learnt my lessons the hard way…as for guys…I seldom did it in the past anyway…so I din do much for guys here too… I did care for a few guys when I was in NZ…but in return there wasn’t much appreciation expressed by the guys..lol ( I guess most guys are like that:P) anyway…I din do it for appreciation anyway..so it’s kinda expected I guess…most guys will always be guys…since that’s the case…I have assumed that most guys need the least of our help and also we shouldn’t expect much appreciation given by them. and when they do need our help…they would spell it out…not hinting… they will have the guts to ask…not beating around the bush…. not expecting we are the worms in their stomach and know what they’re thinking…

to be frank …im not always appreciative towards what others do for me too..how should I say this..i do appreciate but I failed to return the good gesture most of the time…for me..guys need the least maintenance….they can grow by themselves…without grumbles….unfortunately ..guys are sometimes more sophisticated…lol…they either stay quiet…missing in action…or have the same face gestures…hardly know what are they thinking…what do they want…lol..

for me appreciation is pretty simple..a thank you means a lot to me..a birthday wish…don’t have to be fancy or anything…

after such a long time…finally I have realized that it doesn’t matter what I think or how my theories are…people are always different…even siblings and twins have different personalities..we just have to learn to accept others and cherish the diversities of characters…stop grumbling, stop thinking negatives about others and try our very best to accept each others weaknesses. Forget about perfections in the person next to us…it’s impossible…Hopefully through this we will be happier in our everyday lives : )I wil continue to learn to be more caring to my friends...just bear with my slow learning and 'to regret when it's gone' attitude ya :P