Secret

Can u keep a secret? Most of the time it’s totally not a big deal..its gossip or rumours anyway…it’s technically not a secret..but what if it is a big deal…maybe we don’t see it as such but the person whom the secret involves think it is or the person who told us think it is..so when the news broke out…we often won’t anticipate the damage done. What if by telling the ‘small secret’, the person who told us the secret is blamed by the person whom the secret involves in the first place. It’s a small world you see and it is not hard to notice who leak out the secret in the first place. We might not mind being blamed but have we think of the person who told us the secret because he/she trusted us not to tell. When people said ‘don’t tell others ya’..most of the time we will still tell simply because we can’t resist the temptation to gossip about it.. or simply because it’s not a big deal… I guess most of the time..since each of us always have best friends…after hearing a secret..we promised to ourselves that we will only tell 1 best friend..but our only best friend will also promised to just tell his/her best friend and cycle continues.. haha…im thinking too much here I guess…. But it’s quite true also.. Ya…it’s a balance…sometimes even when we are told not to tell others..we have to tell eventually because by not telling others, the matter will become worse (eg expert advice is needed or people closest to that person need to know it to help a that person)..but I guess it’s better for us choose not to tell when telling will further spread the unverified rumours, telling will make no difference or making things worse, it’s better for others not to know, or it’s a very private matter. Most of the time, its risk vs benefit…and it’s not easy to find the balance. For a lot of us, keeping a secret can be the hardest thing in the world....but we still do it because of ‘we have been trusted a secret’. But I guess for our own secrets or inner thoughts or feelings, it’s unhealthy to keep it to ourselves all the time unless telling it will cause more damage to others or ourselves. If not, why not find a friend that we can trust and pour our hearts out. Of course, for secrets others entrusted to us would be a different story. But we can’t generalize often as there are exceptions. May all of us make the best judgments, may we have the wisdom to do more good than harm and may all the decisions whether to tell or not to tell will be of good intention : )